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Got to say i find this an interesting term - is there such a thing as work-life balance? What is it i am meant to be keeping in balance? I find it a confusing term.... 😕
Boundaries are important but I also think these have to be flexible. Sometimes work does have to come before family for a season and vice versa. If I am prepared to give more when work is busy, then hopefully my employer will be equally flexible if for a while I need extra time off for family reasons. It's all about give and take. I can't bear those employees who leave in the middle of a job because the clock struck 5!
One thing that does annoy me is the assumption that people do not enjoy work..
I know ALOT of professionals that really, really enjoy work. So what is the difference between doing "work" in your hobby time and having a hobby?
Yes, but can't hobbies get in the way of family time as well?
I agree that for many people work is really enjoyable and fulfilling and count mself as lucky to be among them. Being fulfilled at work means I am a beta parent to my kids. To me it is important to do work that I believe in and that certainly blurs the edges between work and family. I think it is a g8 idea to involve your family in your work - I'm lucky that can.. and do 😛
Yes, but can't hobbies get in the way of family time as well?
Yes - but I make sure that my family does come first (e.g. doing bath time, making sure that if my wife & I need some time it always takes first place, and I almost never work at the weekend).
... I am a beta parent
I'm still waiting for the Dad release 1.0 :ugeek:
Yes, but can't hobbies get in the way of family time as well?
What! You work, have kids, and have hobbies? 😀
What about this to consider?
I find that 10min is all I need to switch off from work so that when I get home it's OK to get straight in and spend that valuable time with the kids. I look back now at when my kids were little and know how important it was.
I have to say i think dads should always put family first - for me its very straight forward. I want to be there when my kids eat breakfast and tea. I want to be there at bath time and bedtime. I only get a few hours with them from Monday to friday and i will not allow those to be taken off me. I do my job and i do it well - i do what i'm paid for, why should i be bullied by men and women who have no family values and don't care about what their kids grow up to think of them.
My dad lived for the money, his idea of love was to buy me stuff and leaving an inheritance. He went bankcrupt and i don't love him. all I want to leave my kids is the knowledge that i was there for them and loved them. All i leave behind me is who my kids become, their values and their lifestyles. My imput, my being there is crucial to their outcome.
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Profound freerunner my friend.
I heard someone say this challenging quote the other day :
"its not was you leave FOR your kids, its what you leave IN them that counts....."
Profound - what are you looking to leave in them?
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