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Hi all, just going through final details of separation plan, we're going for 50/50 which is still 50% less than the time I want with them but I don't get a choice about that sadly. Question I have is once we sell family home my ex will rent in the same town we live in currently, I'm stuck with where to live, I can only afford a smallish house in our current town and not sure seeing the ex around will help me get over her. I have family 15 miles away including cousins who my kids are very close too and they love the area there but I'll be doing school run half the time so do you think this is too far away? Kids are 8 and 6. Really finding it tough to decide, if it was just me if move where the family are but it's not just me..
Hi all, just going through final details of separation plan, we're going for 50/50 which is still 50% less than the time I want with them but I don't get a choice about that sadly. Question I have is once we sell family home my ex will rent in the same town we live in currently, I'm stuck with where to live, I can only afford a smallish house in our current town and not sure seeing the ex around will help me get over her. I have family 15 miles away including cousins who my kids are very close too and they love the area there but I'll be doing school run half the time so do you think this is too far away? Kids are 8 and 6. Really finding it tough to decide, if it was just me if move where the family are but it's not just me..
Balancing your needs with those of your kids is tough. Living near family 15 miles away could offer great support and a positive environment for your kids, but consider the daily school run and how it might impact everyone's routine. If the commute is manageable and you feel the support and change of environment will benefit you and your kids, it could be worth it. Ultimately, it's about finding a balance that ensures stability and happiness for you all. Do make sure your partner is onboard with the plan though. your kids are their kids too you know.
Has your ex partner agreed you can have children 50 % of time or is that what you are hoping to get?
We have agreed, to be honest she has been quite absent for the last few months so I knew she wouldn't fight that.
I think it's too far away. Long-distance parenting is one of the most difficult challenges. Kids need their parents to be close both physically and emotionally. Even the best relationships become strained with added distance.
I would say it would depend on the travel times, what form of transport you are using etc.
It's harder to make 50/50 work if you're not in the same area.
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