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🙁 I have had a rocky relationship for 8yrs. Now split up, again. We have a 4yr old son, who I love to pieces. But her father has always influenced her in what, when and why! Has always dictated as to when i can see my son if we have split up. Previously when she ended with me and took my son, I stupidly tried 'drugs' a 'friend' had offered me, to calm me. I ended up addicted to heroin!! That was for 11 months. I have now been clear for 22 months. I had been promised before that if I got back to normal I could have my son any time. This has never happened, but I have been staying over occasionally which has allowed me 24hrs. with him. Until now all was fine. Now she has put me out and I am no longer allowed to see him until she sorts out with Social work!!! This has all came about because of some home truths. ie she had no food in so melted a chocolate bar onto bread for a sandwich!!!!!! wth. My son is over weight spends most of his days with her parents, who are mentally unstable, sitting on computer and eating junk. etc etc.
What can I do??? I want my son to be happy AND healthy and I want to spend time with him too. He has asked to have sleepovers at mine but she says no. We only live a few streets away so she can easily come 'check up' if she wanted. Obviously LOTS more to it than just this but I want to know where I can turn for help on contact issues etc. We were never married but i am on birth certificate.
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