[Solved] Upset child !

hi,

if courts have advised him to take that DVPP course, then he should complete it. like you mentioned, he should just jump through the hoops. my case was nothing serious. but they recommended both parents to take separated parenting course. a 4 hour class. i just did it. by being stubborn, he is making things more difficult for himself and reducing chances of him seeing his child in a normal home environment.

He definitely needs to do the course if the court has told him to, if he doesn't he could be in contempt of court, and even if not, if the court tell him he needs to an he ignores them, just imagine what the courts are going to think of him.

Thanks for your replies

My friend has got mental health problems the judge was understanding about this and he didn't get into trouble for not doing the dvpp he only attended a few sessions and packed it in. my friend's final order is he gets once a month in the contact centre until his child is a adult and the judge hopes he does the dvpp one day in the future if he does he can put a court order in for more contact.

It's his child who wants more contact and gets very upset because children love both parents and don't care what happens between parents.

Are the court right keep a parent who has got mental health problems and may be inocent away from there child because they wouldn't do that dvpp.

He's got other children he cares for without any problems he has them every weekend (different ex partner) she has never complained about abuse herself or the children.

Just seems unfair

It is sad that they keeping a child away from a father, this is child abuse and fathers human right violations. It is definitely not in the interest of the child, Statistics show children who are deprived of a parent are likely to suffer and fall behind.

I don't think he can do much other than to abide with the courts unless of course mother allows the child to see the father. To change the system you need to contact your MP

Thank you for your reply..FathersRights
Why do you feel this is child abuse?
Is it a violation of father's human rights if the father refuses to do the dvpp?

Please can you answer my questions

It is child abuse if you are denying a child from seeing the parent. Yes it is also a fathers human right violation by stopping him having access to his kids.

What is the reason for putting someone on DVPP? In some cases, yes, a father may be an unfit parent due to a history of prison, violence, rape or other abuse, but in many cases fathers simply want to share the parental responsibility in an EQUAL fashion

Thank you FathersRights

I'm glad you can accept that in some cases the father is abusive and I feel you are right that some mother do lie to get their ex partners out of the childs life but my friends ex hasn't totally cut him out of his life he does get contact in a contact centre not no contact so I don't get why it's violation of his human rights sorry I feel we will disagree on this point.

I feel you are right with what your saying about the child it's sad when children can get emotional problems caused by being separated from their father the courts excuse is that safely of the child because some of the abusive father's have gone on to kill their children not saying that mother's haven't killed their children too but it's that big point that women's aid make about abusive father's killing their children.

I feel that parents should share responsibility if both parents are safe because their are lots of unsafe mother's out there.

Thanks for your reply I do appreciate it.