[Solved] on the verge of giving up

BROKEN DAD:

That's excellent news that work are transferring you to be close to little one, you've very lucky to have a company that supports you, I really couldn't of got through the past year without mine they were amazing, You sound more upbeat now things are panning out a little, you will find that it pans out in the end and once court is over the ex will chill a little trust me 🙂

The family courts is such a rollercoaster but it does't end once a order has been made, one way or another you have to find a way of dealing with the ex for the sake of your child and that's hard work the fun really starts when court ends but I've found accepting maybe I was a bit of a [censored], I've swallowed some pride and tried not to react to the ex which has worked wonders.

You just gotta sit tight and have comfort in the fact that this will be sorted sooner or later but you'll have grief for the rest of your life lol 🙂

That's great to hear brokendad.

They do take into consideration the amount of contact you had before contact was stopped, Every case is different there are no set rules what the contact court will award it just seems that every other weekend fri-sun and a midweek overnight is the bare minimum
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where have you gotten this as a bare minimum from?

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my female best friend believes this midweek overnight is damaging for a child at school, but its what \i want too to maintain our biond

...what's damaging is limiting contact and disrupting the bond between a child and parent... and that means dad too! ....there should be a presumption of shared care when parents split, but whilst we have the "resident "parent (usually the mother) allowed to call the shots, encouraged to limit contact by the maintenance system and receiving all the benefits, things are unlikely to change.