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hi,
so this is my current dilemma. I heard its the norm for courts to give every other weekend to parents, friday evening to sunday evening. well someone thinks thats too much and it should be saturday to sunday e.g 2 nights a month, and the reason being that kids on her side of family meet every weekend, and the kids look forward to it. is this really a good enough reason? i have not even asked for half the holidays.
thanks.
The bog standard and most common schedule of contact is as youβve heard, a full weekend every fortnight and often, a weekly midweek visit too.
I think itβs always best to ask for more than you would be ok with, I mean are you in a position to ask for a shared care agreement, would your work commitments allow for you to have more contact in the week?
Try thinking outside the box, for example, you could suggest that if there are arrangements every weekend, you could agree to the sat/sun but for every weekend, or sat/sun/mon fortnightly with maybe Weds/Thurs every week. 50/50 school holidays and alternate Christmas and birthdays... one year with you, the next with her. This is just an example, I suggest you sit and work out a schedule that works and ask for more, which allows you to be seen to compromise without losing out.
hi thanks for tips.
i just returned from 2nd hearing. it has been a joke. as someone disagreed with the standard fri-sun weekend, and pushing for sat-sun instead. wasted hours on petty issues. disagreeing to any mid-week contact etc. now have to go final hearing.
It can often seem that your getting nowhere, but donβt lose heart. Have they asked you to file a statement? A strong statement with good use of case law to back up what youβre asking for could help your case.
Take some time out and recharge your batteries. If you can afford it, you might like to think about using a direct access barrister for the final hearing.
All the best
hi,
yes I've been using direct access barrister for the hearings so far, and will do for final hearing (thank God) . if i go it alone, am sure i will be 100 times worse off. yep they asked for witness statements, so will give input/leave to barrister so we can make a good case. witness statement: I just want to see my children π
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