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So I followed all the advice ahead of my CAFCASS interview and none of my concerns were in the report and ridiculous allegations made by my ex, (including against my new partners young son), were submitted to the court before I'd had chance to see them. Their promised email communication never arrived and I am disgusted by the fact neither the court nor CAFCASS are taking my concerns and the urgency seriously.
What next????
Should I take the gloves off and shine a light on my fears for my child with only her mother's influence 24/7?
I had exactly the same. I emailed cafcass detailing all the things they had left out, the errors in their report, and the contradictions and lies in my ex's statements. I got an email back saying to pretty much not send them any more emails.
This was many months ago. Since then, all of my concerns have been ignored and I've been made out to be the person at fault - despite overwhelming evidence that I'm not. The judge has even said exactly the opposite to written and recorded evidence and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it. You can't appeal if you disagree with a decision. In the meantime, cafcass have been excused from attending every single hearing since the phone interview (about 6 hearings). How convenient - you never get a chance to question them or the decisions they've made.
Other things you can expect are court orders taking forever to arrive and months in between hearings. And in the meantime your kids will stay with your ex despite anything she's doing or done.
Although you're under pressure, I would avoid going on the attack against the mother... continue to share your concerns of course, but make it about the child and not about getting back at the mother... it's likely to backfire.
Hopefully you should be given the opportunity to file a statement, you can use this to voice concerns and offer a counter arguement, if you have any evidence to disprove the mothers allegations, you can also mention that and attach to your statement too.
If the mother has no proof to back up her allegations, the court are likely to ignore them, you may also be given a chance to question cafcass about the one sided report at the final hearing, if not by cross examination, by any submissions you make.
Best of luck
Hi mate,
This is ridiculous, how can CAFCASS treat fathers unfairly and write a report that is not independent. We need to protest and write to our MPs for reforms.
Regards
Nas
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