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Hi everyone
So my issue is that my ex and i have split up and now she is only allowing me to see my son when it suites her and for only short periods of upto 30 minutes once per blue moon.
She is also using our son as a weapon as i am not allowed to have him with me at any given time.
I have asked her to do mediation but she refuses.
Is the next step court as i just want access to being able to have my son without her their or controlling him/using him as a weapon against me to try and control access to him?
Hi
Sorry to hear this, how old is son?
Unfortunately yes you will need to go down the court route.
My son is 2 in March this year.
Can i avoid court and maybe get social services involved to get visitation rather then court as id like to avoid this as this will take a long longer length of time.
Hi, unfortunately, if she refuses to cooperate, then only a court can order contact. You can try mediation first, as a court will generally insist on that first anyway.
As she refuses mediation, you can book s MIAM call and tell mediator shes not interested. Then they can give you permission to apply to court. I think it's worth the hassle, then you can have your child staying over at your place.
If you have attempted to start mediation and they have contacted her to arrange a MIAM but she's refused, the mediator can complete a form to allow you to begin court proceedings.
If mediation has only been a discussion, you will need to attend a MIAM and get the mediators to contact her. Once she refuses, they will give you the form you need.
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