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Hi everyone,
I can't help but think that, taking into consideration whats happened so far, and the comments and conclusions of the S7 Report, that regardless of me attending a course for Domestic Violence, and being a model student etc..its still gonna be decided that its not in the childrens best interests to have contact with me?
The CAFCASS lady makes me sound terrible, and if I forget I am me for a few minutes, then I do look awful, and so surely, if CAFCASS are saying that perhaps I shouldn't see the kids again, even despite how I get on during the course, what hope have I got, because the Court goes on what CAFCASS recommends. It is highly unlikely that the court will go against what is advised. My Ex will no doubt be telling CAFCASS that my kids are having nightmares about me, and are scared at the prospect of seeing me again. I can imagine the conversations that have, and that will take place. My ex does not want me to see the kids again, and she is thinking that I think that if I do this Course, then I will be seeing them, period.
I just think that more checks will be asked for, and obviously, the more time that goes by, then the more my kids are gonna be against me.
CAFCASS are not going to suddenly change their opinion, and my ex is gonna be quoting what they recommended in the S7, until the cows come home!
What hope do I really have guys, seriously?
S74
Hi,
I have had similar recommendations served to me by CAFCASS, i had to do a DVPP course due to un-wanted abusive text messages and facebook harassment, nothing physical.
As-long as you do what CAFCASS recommend and you turn up to court with the proof i dont think CAFCASS have any bearing on the judges decision as they are no longer required to make any more recommendations. You have already completed what has been ordered by the courts so i dont know what further checks they have left to do??
I will say im not a 100% on this so i would like to seek advice to, but it dont make sense if they get involved again as they have done the job that has been asked by the courts, the rest was down to you to do it and prove yourself.
Paul
No one can predict what the courts will or won't order they are all different and they don't always go by what cafcass recommend that is fact, Thinging and analysing wont get you anywhere either, you can be your own worst enemy I've done it having different outcomes running through my head all the time it really is a case of how longs the bit of string.
Most dads get treated like s*it off cafcass and they always recommend little or no contact but as tiesto said you've got to pander to their [censored] tell them what they want to here don't put a foot wrong and push for contact supervised in a contact centre to start off with, be honest to everyone and admit your failings they all gan see straight through someone who is still bitter at the ex, I swear the vindictive scum thrive off a dad who is begging to see their kids like I say pander to their [censored]. make it a mission to get supervised contact and once you get that contact is always going to increase once your kids see your not a crazed nut job.
I'm sure they wouldn't of ordered you do jump through all the hoops so far if they were not ready to see contact progress or else why would they of recommended it as I said in a previous post crack on with your life and don't let the bastards win 🙂
Hi Paul, thanks for that, I will do as you advise, and just hang in there.
Best Wishes, S74
Hey Mr Slim, thanks for the advise, and you're right, it doesn't do me any good keep thinking about everything.
I will keep doing what is required of me, and hope you're right mate.
Thanks again, S74
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