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[Solved] will fathers ever be granted the same powers....

 
(@ice55)
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I got married in 2004 MY mother died shortly arfter, she allways wanted me to have daughters and after several years with my x having miscariges and a eptopic pregnancy our first was born, she ment the world to me obviously then after a while I was getting made redundant at work, things were getting to me and my x father got very sick indeed, I kept changing jobs to support us, but got made redundant again, cracks started showing and I was not happy my x was already pregnant with our second daughter, I told my x that I didn't feel the same way about us I had to be truthful to her and I started talking to another women, I moved out and stayed with my sister for a while I was still seing my girls, then arfter a couple of months I moved away the hardest thing I've ever done in my life, I eventually moved in with my partner she had 3kids two with special needs,it was so so hard but I still tryed to get to see my girls on the train, and paid maitinace for both from 2009 up to 20014 and brought clothes and presents, but she would not let me bring the girls down to where I lived, so it became a balancing act, and sometimes she just wanted me to put money in her bank and not bother to come and see the girls, never let me meet them out of school never seen them on their birthdays, and when she met someone who I kind of knew him. I went down to see my girls he was there, she said in front of the girls you are daddy and he is dad that's the way it is now, my heart sank and I knew from this day I had no chance of any say in my daughter's lifes.........my partner was so very supportive because of her kids with special needs she wanted me to be in my daughter's lifes, then it changed she wanted more money if I could not see them sometimes because of money she would use the girls against me made me feel so guilty, then one of my daughter's started saying on the phone I don't want to talk to daddy because she rang me,over Christmas but my phone was broken so obviously I didn't awnser but I had told her mother this aswell then she did not want to talk to me anymore on the phone, I came to see my other daughter,  but I've not seen them for a year it made me and my partner split up I became homeless and got very depressed my daughter's mother don't phone or text me anymore, when we were together for 10 years we never drank or drugs  never was violent to each  other and it's came to this she has been clever and never said your not seing my girls but said I am not forcing them to see you......i feel so helpless and do not know where to turn I love my daughter's so much and allways will........plz help 

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Topic starter Posted : 18/02/2015 6:48 pm
(@dadmod4)
Illustrious Member

Hi ICE and welcome.

It doesn't sound like you've tried mediation yet, and I think that's definitely a good place to start. Try www.nfm.org.uk to see what it can do and who to contact.

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Posted : 19/02/2015 1:21 am
(@ice55)
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Well thank you for any advice given...been through so much as I am sure a alot of fathers have just trying to hang in there I guess, my daughter's Meen the world to me I get angry that mothers can be this way, never thought I would be treated like this I hate it............ Thank you for the advise king regards craig

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Topic starter Posted : 19/02/2015 6:18 pm
(@dadmod4)
Illustrious Member

Hi Craig

You're on here with a lot of fathers who have been treated the same way, so hopefully we you can get a lot of information and advice from what a lot of us have been through. There are a lot of good endings on here also, thought, so bear in mind that it is undoubtedly a sh*t time now, but it has the potential to get better, despite your ex.

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Posted : 21/02/2015 7:06 pm
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