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Hi,
Me and the wife have been together 17 years and married for 12, we have an 11 year old boy together.
We have always had our ups and downs, she has always been really stubourn and unreasonable about general things and we teneded to rub each other up the worng way etc but i generaly thought things were going ok.
But on 3rd December she was at work and i normaly work from home, when the police arrived randomly and arrested me with allergations of Strangulation and Coercive control, i was released on bail pending further investigtions, the police have also siezed my phone to check texts etc.
She is currently loving in our house with our son and i am nt allowed to see or contact her at all. She has given me strick times i can see our son but i have to pick up like 5 streets away and he has to walk this even if its dark.
My main concern at the moment is what the police will do, how will they interpret the messages between us on my phoen when sometimes they got a bit heated but i have never showed or done any violance to her at all and as for the coercive control she said that i controlled money and her eating etc, we had a joint bank account and both had access to it and she left dealing with all the bills to me, sure we didnt have much money at first so we had to be carful with money so may of said we cant afford something sometines or wait till we get paid etc but otherwise she bought things that were needed. As for controling what she ate, she did all the shopping and cooking but she did have a tendancy to do very large portions and un healthy food, all i asked was to cook more healty for the three of us, but tis was always a battle as he wouldnt listen.
While he is living with her she is still feeding him way too much food and also too late at night when he needs to be going to bed like 30 mins after as he needs to get up for school at 6am. She also just lets him play games all night and lets him stay up well to late for getting up for school, all she cares about doing is being on her phone all night and ignoring him.
My son has actually said that he hates his mum and wants to be with me permanantly and not even to see her at all.
Also to add to all this, i have caught her slepping with other random men she finds online twice, and god knows if there are others i dont know about. She has prbaly had some lined up and thats what prompted all this.
So first thing i need to know is whats going to be the likely outcome with the police?
Then if that goes ok will she get legal aid? as i would like to give her some money to move out of the house and i can then take over the house and bills, she cant afford the house on her own, where as i can do it
hi,
if police think its not serious, it will likely be no further action. and yes she will likely get legal aid.
think what you need to focus on now is securing child arrangements. if she is restricting contact then you can apply to court for child arrangements order. feel free to get in touch if you need advice. sending you a private message.
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