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[Solved] why there is no fact finding/mediation before NMO

 
(@steventony)
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In UK why social care does not do any fact finding before certifying for NMO...why they dont speak to husband /wife together to see magnitude of issue and support that with any counselling ..before issueing NMO social care did not set up a common discussion between me and my wife ...

.in my case social care used the confusion between me and my wife as an opportunity to run their cottage industry and show the progress of their work ...they boosted my wife to make all allegation against me ...They joined hands with my wife for 2 months and worked against me which i even was not aware of that ..they thought my wife not to give me any food - voice record my behavior ...dont open the door till might night and make me stand outside the flat in cold and open the door by 1 am and obviosly i will shout at her ...they have asked her to record this ..etc like this they teared me like a specimen ...finally they have put a fire to my family ...I lost lot money ...my mother had heart attack after hearing these incidents and she is paralysed & on bed...

Only mistake i did is that i had my daughter born here...In the name of child protection act they burnt my whole family and finally my child will be left like an orphan with no finance ..poor education ...bad child hood ..no affection & love from parents ....

How to challenge social care in this country ..where to complain my losses..how to prove my innocence ...I beg all Gentleman of this fourm please help me with suggestions .any good solictors to challenge social care

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Topic starter Posted : 15/03/2018 5:14 am
(@superprouddad)
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It seems as if English is not your first language, and some of what you wrote is hard to follow and understand.

However, when you wrote about your ex-wife being coached to not let you in for a long time, and then record when she finally did, I have to admit that rang a bell. I know these stories are hard to believe and make us sound like lunatics, but I know that some women are being coached by organisations such as women’s aid on how to create incidents which can then be classified as domestic violence, leading to the woman receiving free legal aid for life and greater chance of having full control of the children.

My ex was told by women’s aid to wait for me to go to work, chuck my stuff outside, change the locks, and call the police when I came back and tried to get in. She had the better sense of not doing it.

The fact that this is happening is something this country needs to wake up to.

As for your case, I think you really need to find someone who can help you write with more clarity. You are understandably under stress, English is not your first language, and if you are not able to express your story with clarity, people won’t believe you, except people like me who have been exposed to the same thing and know there is truth behind your words.

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Posted : 15/03/2018 11:39 am
(@steventony)
Eminent Member Registered

Thanks for the reply

I am sorry i wrote the details in mid night i was too tiered ..yes absolutely you got the point ....

Without any hesitation social care are involved in supporting spouse and creating evidence by cheating husbands...the good for them is that they dont need to answer anyone except court in the name of security or protection for child ...they have that label to protect their gaps ..

Can we all group together and put these issues to government or Theresa May ..or to Media ...i have few friends who are born British and their life is also torn by social care ..we are planning to do that in legal way ...anyone wish to do can join hands with me...this is a great country and if my efforts can help other going through this kind of situation and help few families to unite i am ready to lead this issue to government or to media...

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Topic starter Posted : 15/03/2018 2:53 pm
(@superprouddad)
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You need to make a decision. Either you try to change the system, and loose your kid, or play along with the system and be part of your kid's life. To me the choice is obvious, I'll play along to the pantomine so that my son doesn't grow up fatherless.

You're not going to get anywhere in terms of changing policy. This parliament and the next are going to be bogged down with Brexit for a long time. I imagine it will be at least another 10 years before any significant changes to the law are considered.

So what you have left is to play along with what's there today, find areas where you can improve, define what you want to achieve, set out a strategy, build a support network that will push you towards your goal and execute patiently and methodically one step at a time.

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Posted : 16/03/2018 5:05 am
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