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Hello.
I have written before about my daughters medication and related issues around schooling and wellbeing. My ex wife will not engage with me at all on these very important subjects.
In the last 6 weeks I have written politely to ex wife mother asking for her to be an intermediary for discussions - no reply.
I then wrote to my daughters godmother asking if she will be the same for the benefit of my daughter - no reply although I do know she was told not to respond by my ex.
Finally I went to mediation, was assessed as fine to continue. My ex told them she would only go for assessment if I paid. I did pay, even though she has no money issues, but the result was a letter saying she was not suitable for mediation.
I seem to have exhausted all avenues. In the meantime discussions around medication goes on without my involvement. I have written to her directly this time, saying this is not acceptable and she should engage on these issues. Her response is to withdraw my daughter from coming this week (she cloaks the motive of course)
I only want her to communicate on these issues, so I do not see how or what I could take her to court for, and even so she would attend, say ok and then totally ignore everything again.
Not sure why I am writing this really, as after 4 years of this I should know the score and just carry on as normal. But it needs resolving. Any ideas?
Thank you.
... Your options are limited to the actions you already know about; mediation and court as a last resort.
As its a medical issue, I don't understand why you can't talk to her medical team directly. However, with PR she does have a duty to keep you updated on important issues concerning your daughters religion, education and health.
You could make an application for a Specific Issue Order and at the final hearing if it's granted, ask for a review hearing to be put in place to make sure that the order is being adhered to.
That's all I can suggest... I wish there was more.
Best of luck
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