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ok had final hearing july, ex has really made it hard i had everything throw at me, the lot, only thing ive not had was drink drugs and rape, shes stoped contact as yet only once..... but this is my problem, ive been taking my under 3 year old out on my own, all sort of ok, shes a bit upset , at the begining of contact, i think thats becaues i dont see enough of her,, as court ordered on recomendations of stupid cafcass up 2. 8 hours every 2 weeks, stupid, now cafcass did a home visit, ok, but ex wanted to veiw my home as she not belive cafcass report,, however, she no show, so can i bring my child back here, ???? her solicitor said if i take baby home im wrong and its a breach? before mother comes to veiw, ive had to bend over backwards, after 2 years in family court nonesence, its all swings to the mother , no matter what you spend,, its all wrong, and not in the childs best interest, at all, i feel more like a babysitter for a while,, looking after my my my,, child
Does it state in the order that the mother has to make a home visit to you before you can take the child there?
If there is no condition written in the order about her checking your home first, then you wouldn’t be in breach.
Perhaps you could give CAFCASS a call about it and ask them for advice, with winter here, you should be able to take your child home to spend time with her and allow her to get used to your home surroundings.
As Mojo says, unless the order states you cannot take the child home, then you are not in breach if you do that.
Try calling Cafcass if you are unsure although they are likely to say you need to seek legal advice.
Check the wording of your order thoroughly and if she is breaching the order you can always take her back to court without having to try mediation again.
If you apply to vary, mediation has to be attempted.
You could always try writing to the court and see if they will restore the matter as the order was quite recent.
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