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Hi, I'm hoping I'm in the right place for some advice.
I've been separated from my ex for over 2 years now, my kids live with me.
My ex has taken it on herself to have my youngest son (11), overnight on a Monday and Tuesday, which was never a mutual agreement, just something I went along with. I'm looking to start divorce proceedings soon, and have asked her to look into having my son on some weekends, which has been ignored.
What steps do I need to take to try and make a mutual arrangement?
Any advice on the divorce proceedings and the contact arrangements would be much appreciated.
Thanks in advance.
We have child arrangement order agreed in court. Do you have court order to say they live with you? if not could she start proceedings against you to ask that they live with her. However doesn't sound like she would want that, but you might want something in place to protect them living with you, going forward At the same time you could put a child arrangement order in place, giving her regular set contact. But if she doesn't want more contact, don't think you can force her. Rather than court ordered perhaps a solicitor can draw something up for you for her to sign to say happy they live with you. Sorry can't be more helpful, I'm not a solicitor or anything, just a mom and nan.
Hi There,
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As said above if she doesn't want any additional contact it's very difficult to enforce it, a court can't do that, the courts work in the way that if a parent wants contact or additional contact then they can enforce that the resident parent make the child available, but they aren't able to enforce that the non resident parent see the child.
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I would suggest mediation, for you and your ex, during the sessions you could discuss the divorce and the child contact, and include finaces ect as well.
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GTTS
Hi jnny, thankyou for your reply and suggestions, very much appreciated. They are certainly things I will follow up on.
I'm hoping for a glimmer of a maternal instinct to show itself, but not holding my breath.
Thanks again. John
Hi gtts, thanks for the reply to my post, thankyou for the information, I'm sure I'm going to be a frequent visitor to these forums.
John
Hi John,
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You are welcome to ask for advice on anything, we all have varied experience in differnet areas, so where as I have experience on child contact from going through court myself my knowledge isn't as current as some of the other moderators, but I do have a lot of experience of divorce as those laws haven't really changed much so if you need any guidence in that area, just ask, if it's sensitive questions you can send me a private message by clicking on my profile picture, that will take you to my profile and you will find the private message button at the bottom of my info on the left of the page.
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GTTS
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