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Hi guys how are we ?
I require some help .i have a 11 month old son with my wife who is from Pakistan.we got married two years ago I fought her case to remain in the UK an spent around £4000.she has limited leave to remain in uk once our son was born.few months later she phoned police got me arrested for domestic violence , I have never hit her or or any other form of domestic violence, I am due in courts for treats to kill her .she has made up so many lies about me an my family so that she can get legal aid,I start family courts procedure an have been to three court appearances.each time it's last few mins an she states through her solicitor that me an my family have mistreated our son.now the court has ordered a hearing about the things I have alleged done to her an I must then wait till her soliciter post the allegation to me an then I respond.i have done this she had around 17 issue he noted but I replayed to each one with evidence eg text messages photo etc.now we went back to court last week they told her to narrow it down to 8 issue only .her solictor will narrow it down the 8 issue where they is probably no evidence.the court also said one my court trial is over for domestic violence then may then do their own fact finding trial .the family court trial is on probability rather than evidence.is this even fair ?they are all lies my wife has made up so I don't get to see my son an that she can claim legal aid benefits an complete stay in the uk.i think I have been used for getting stay for her .i have to pay for my solictors she get legal aid hence why she prolonging the case .i just want to see my son I have suggested supervised visit but she refused this on two occasions .this case will certainly bankrupt me but I need advise on what to do .please help me in my own country of birth I'm being treated like this an my wife a foreign national is being given legal
Aid benefits an is playing the system against me .after every court she puts pics up of our son with her an her family .
Hi There,
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I don't have too much experience of these things, but keep checking back and someone will be able to help you with better knowledge than me.
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GTTS
Hi there
I'm afraid you will just have to see the process through and do your best to show that you are a good father.... it is your child's right to have you involved in his life. Sometimes court can seem very unfair, but when allegations are made it's only right that they are thoroughly investigated, to make sure that a child isn't at any risk.
The best advice I can give is to try and keep the case as child focused as possible, don't try and make allegations about your wife, defend yourself of course and if you are innocent of the dv charges then you must stick to it and try and prove your innocence.
There are many dads that acccept an undertaking in a dv case, even if the allegations made against them are false. You can accept an undertaking on the understanding that you are accepting it without accepting that you are guilty of the allegations.
Once the dv case is over you can concentrate on the contact issues, it's good that you are prepared to resume contact supervised, you could suggest using a contact centre to begin with.
It's upsetting I know but if you remain calm and reasonable whilst everything is looked into, you should be able to see your child again, it it will take time.
Best of luck
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