Urgent Advice needed

Thanks, I have a mediation meeting on Monday, and they have agreed after liasing with the ex that they will sign the form for me

She has advised holding tight for the time being, I am allowed to see my son, and I am making the most of the contact, I am limited to times but it is still contact, what I am finding hard is that I have to share it with her friends, so it is not just me and my son

Obviously I wish to show my son off to my family but they understand as well that it is not possible at the moment, my concern is the birth certificate but was told today that I would have to make a court application for this as she has already done it and the only way to get it altered is through court (unless she changes it within the 28days) so I will have to go to court anyway, I was told to wait and file both contact and birth certificate at the same time, ex is saying that in 3 months time she will decide if I can see him at my house, which I do think is unreasonable, we are non smokers and her shared house is full of smokers she also smokes, and I just want him to get some non smoking air, appreciate I am panicking but I'm a new dad. and overnight stays will not happen until she is confirmatble in leaving him, can I ask if this is normal? I want to have my son and him overnight and find it hard that I may have to wait 6 months or more because the ex doesnt want me to have him...whats everyone thoughts on this? I have an annexe at my parents house so I have a full and adequate home to accomodate my son all of which is full of newborn clothes and accessories which no doubt wont be used 🙁 I am just finding it really hard at the moment

I would actually agree to all of the above your ex has suggested, but that she also makes sure now she returns to registry office and puts your name on birth certificate. If you go to court with baby being so young you are likely to get less possibly than she is offering. At least for now she is letting you see your baby and it wont be long before she hopefully allows you to take baby to your home

hi,

I think her considering you seeing child at your place in 3 months time is pretty reasonable. I was seeing my child for 1 hour every 2 weeks at a coffee shop till she turned 1. overnights will be starting when she is 2 and a half. Hopefully you will get to have overnights with your child earlier than that.

Hi

In your situation it sounds like you really want to keep things out of court. At the moment you are being offered contact albeit limited with a view to increasing it in future (3 months) which is great.

If you go to court you have to factor in so many things. As soon as you apply to the courts, your ex could stop all contact and say let's see what the court says. Courts currently delays. You may have to go through multiple hearings. It's also not just the judge involved but possibly CAFCASS, reports may need to be written, everyone will have an opinion.

Going to court is so unpredictable. Give it 3 to 6 months and if nothing has improved then go to court. 

Thanks everyone, really appreciate it