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Hi
Hoping you can help me please, my ex has just had my baby, well yesterday, she told me today 24 hours after he was born, but I just found out that withint these 24 hours she has been and registered the birth of our son and not put me on the certificate
I am only allowed to see him when they say and my family are not allowed, I dont know what to do
I have a Mediation appointment next Monday to ask for a MIAM form as she has refused mediation, but I am concerned about how long it will take to get to court, and that me and all of my family are going to miss out on time with my son
I am currently doing as they ask so I can see him
To get a family court hearing could take up to two months. With your baby literally being a few days old it would be best to be patient and see your son at times your ex offers . As for your family it may be best to concentrate on yourself at moment and spending quality time just you and baby. Where you are split up unfortunately other family members may have to wait until baby is older before seeing your son.
No doubt your ex is breast feeding and contact maybe only 1-2 hours at a time at most with your son being so young and very dependent on mum at moment.
Most of the time i would advise to put court application in , but it maybe worth waiting a little while longer before doing so especially if you are actually seeing your baby son. After all he is only a few days old and your ex may come round a bit if you give her a bit of space
No he isnt being breast fed he is bottle fed so we have got over that hurdle
Family have said that they wont see him until it is ok to do so as long as I can so they are being fair
Ex will not change her mind she has said she wants to go to court as it is her child and not mine
In addition to what Warwickshire has advised, I would also add that you have to keep in mind your ex has just had a baby. All of the post natal emotions will be there, she will be trying to figure things out and focus on the baby and settling at home etc.. Whilst she may be saying she wants to go court you've also said your only allowed to see baby when they say. If you go to court then you may end up in a situation where you see the baby when the court says and this could be even less due to the baby's age etc whereas your ex once things have settled may allow you to build up contact quicker and sooner. If you give it 3 to 6 months and you have hardly seen the baby and your ex is not engaging then by all means go to court.
What sort of contact are you looking for?
As you've said she hasn't added you to the birth certificate then you need to submit an application to the court to grt Parental Responsibility.
All the best.
Hi,
I can relate to this. I was quick to make a court application shortly after baby was born. And it was worth it. Court ordered that she give me a private room at her place for me to see baby. was short time, started off 30 minutes each saturday, then gradually increased by hours, and overnight stays to start soon. There was lot of ugly and abusive behaviour which is why I did not wait around. If things are more amicable between you and ex, then maybe you could hang onto the MIAM form, and delay making the c100 application. MIAM is valid for 12 months.
I agree with the above. I would really take the contact you are being offered at the moment (and don't forget, she could simply not offer you anything at the moment) and see how it goes on for 3 months before doing anything, it might just improve, and if you make it official now, she might dig her heels in. If you can come to an amicable agreement, that is alway going to be preferable to going down the court route.
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