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So attended court last week a private psychlogist is doing an full psychlogical assement on myself the reason of ringing cafcass to much even tho in doing this i was the one who got everything up and running because they couldnt organise a [censored] up in brewery but just taking it with a pinch of salt .the psychologist is also asking my child a number of questions to see how much child values relationship with myself even tho i have told them the child hates me because of mum and family bad mouthing me as stated in the section seven report that the respondents family have told child bad things since child was at a early age . also to ask and find out if contact was permently stopped how it would impact on child and also if child is mature enough to understand the choice of not wanting contact at present or in future..child is nine n half at present .so when psychologist see me ive decide to have some picture that me and child did together and some videos of me and child playing together and having a happy time and show him childs room and special things me and child have done such as activities and also explain how child when i was having contact shows no love or is not nice to me infront of childs mum and that child cant show no emotional feeling or that child values relationship with myself when infront of mother .and that mum is simply try to stop myself and child from having a smooth relationship and has full emotional control over child .im not going to bring up petty things but things that clearly highlight the breakdown of contact and the emotional harm childs mum is doing to child ,but i think if the person being the psychologist is up there as a top psycholgist am sure he or she can see this situation for what it is and see that this is simply a dad and child trying to have a normal relationship but because of mums interferring and causing emotional harm to child that is mum that is the problem and is turning child against me and has total control over childs feelings and emotions which is very sad but is the truth so im just hoping and trying to keep my chin up guys stay strong to any other dads out there each day is one more step to seeing your kids one day at a time guys
Thank you for the update 1234homeland, keeping fingers crossed on this one. Considering how difficult this must be for you, your post sounds really sober and emotionally healthy and that's good to see.
I agree with superprouddad, it's a difficult time for you, let's hope the psychologist will be thorough and fair and see what has been happening and the court will take the right action to Get contact back up,and running.
You ll need patience and understanding, but you have your child's best interests at your heart and I'm sure if the court gives you the opportunity you will do whatever it takes for your child.
All the best
I'm going to delete your duplicate post, it will only confuse things if there are two conversations going on on the same subject.
Hi There,
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I can't really add much other than that I mirror what has been said and to wish you luck.
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Let us know how it goes.
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GTTS
Although you've told the psychologist that your child hates you, you may be surprised what the psychologist finds out - your child is acting out of self preservation, children will do that in bad situations, and the best way to do that is to go along with the mother, but that isn't necessarily what is actually felt. Let's hope so.
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