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Situation update:
Had the first meeting with the guardian, they seemed very interested in hearing the complete story from the very start including the relationship from when we got together to when we split up and since the split.
I explained it from the start to where we are at now, the guardian did say that what i was telling was totally opposite to what the ex had told when she’d spoken with her.
According to the ex I’m a violent controlling evil bar steward who was abusive mentally, financially and physically to her and still am mentally abusing her….and she’s scared that’s what i’d also do to (child) which is why she doesn’t want me apart of (child’s) life or hers any more.
Ooooh that was so good to hear and i calmly explained that the proof and evidence of the ex’s lies and deceptions were in all of the long history of this contact dispute within the most if not all of the hearing bundles in form of… police records of her lies and deceit, in all of the CAFCASS S7 reports, in all observed contact reports, in the finding of fact judgement and in the judgements of 3 separate judges at hearings including committal proceedings hearing, over the last 8yrs or so of legal action.
That went down well as the guardian said that she’d need to go through the case bundle supplied to her to check what i was telling her. I hope she does because all the facts are there in black & white!
One question I was asked was, if i was over the ex? Which i thought strange having been split almost 10yrs and her having married and me in a relationship…
I actually answered that the day she lied to the police and told them i’d punched her in the face was the day any chance of reconciliation went out the window, i could not be with someone who could lie about the father of her child!
I was also asked why i thought she kept stopping contact and why she made up false claims..... i answered that i couldn't know what goes off in her head as she has no rational, reasonable or valid reason for doing any of it.
i did add that had i been or done any of what she has tried to claim over the years, that i would have held my hand up and said OK and done whatever was asked of me by court to get the ex to move past it to allow contact to continue.
My thoughts are that i got the history and facts across well, i’m hoping i wasn’t too critical of the ex, but that will no doubt be something that is brought up at some point.
Whether the guardian and then the psychologist will be able to see the ex in her true colours or not is anyone’s guess… i was told that the psychologist that has been instructed is very good at getting the truth and working out fact from fiction…
For my child’s sake i really hope so!
All sounds quite positive. Hopefully they do see through your ex and get to the truth!
All sounds good, hopefully things will work out,
GTTS
MODERATOR NEEDED.
Unsure what happened here, this was (or so i thought) posted in the legal section away from the non-members sections, any idea why it's here and if not then could you move it back, i'd rather it not be visible to non-members
TIA
Hi dad-i-d
All of the forum sections are open to guests, so moving it into the legal eagle section won't make any difference to who sees it I'm afraid. You can edit it if you're nervous about the content.
On another note, the Guardian does sound as if they will be thorough, let's hope so and that the truth will come out.
All the best
You know what mojo....I'm gonna leave it as is, nothing is libellous or naming anyone so as long as my identy remains anonymous 😉
... as long as your’e sure! As long as you dont give anything away that could identify you, it should be fine and as you say theres nothing libellous there... just the truth!;)
The thing you need to be aware of is that posting legal proceedings is contempt of court. If it's kept anonymous, and you are asking for advice (rather than just posting out of mischief), then the worst a court is likely to do is to give you a bit of a lecture.
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