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Hi so I have not seen my son for year , not my choice . I have always paid the mother directly to her bank for years . When son left school he got full time employment so I stopped paying into her account . He was caught thieving at work and was sacked mother was not bothered as she wanted him to go to college so she could carry on benefits baring in mind he don't live with her he lives at his girlfriends house . He is now 18 and just been informed he as started a college course so his mum can keep the benefits and that split the money .. I have a feeling she is going to go to csa to try and get money out of me again as she was angry when I stopped paying when I found out he was employed . Will I have to pay for him again ? My wife thinks I should get a private investigator to prove that he is not living with mum . Any advice will he greatfull
hi,
if he is in full time education and mother goes to CMS, then yes very likely they will expect you to pay maintenance. if you can gather evidence to show he is not living with mum, then possible they do not open CMS case.
I recommend you join this support group for paying parents, very useful:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/239699060076601/?ref=share
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