[Solved] unable to find post i made on the forum

LIVING HOPE S POST 11/2/2020

First of all I don't want to bore you to tears but i will provide some background as briefly as possible.
I have been separated from my Ex for approx 4 years.
I was the main parent doing most of the childcare but when we split I moved out. I was traumatised and utterly heartbroken. The kids really were my life.
This grieving and terror of being separated from my children compelled me to pay approx 3-4 times the legal requirement.
Things were mostly amicable for approx 3 years including access to the kids anytime, going into the family home cooking meals etc...
Until my Ex moved a guy into my house. At that point I did not think it was fair I continued to pay so much including a big mortgage. This inevitable brought an abrupt end to the peace times.
They were going on expensive holidays, buying cars whilst i worked 2 jobs paying mortgage on my house where she lived, bills and my rent. I'm sure you've heard this sob story many times but i was being stretched to the limit.
We eventually agreed a deal where by they bought me out of my house. Terrible as the deal was for me as i got significantly less then half the equity but for peace of mind i accepted it.
Since then she has for the first time gone to the CSA and much to her disappointment or should i say blind rage she has ended up with a lot less then what i offered. However, despite the CSA awarding her less I have continued to pay a lot more directly to my now 18 year olds which she dismisses as just discretionary.Things like their mobiles, my sons football, his gym membership, my sons £45 a week lunch and petrol costs, daughters trampolining and other items. Comes to a lot but for some crazy reason she does not acknowledge it despite these being important items.
Apologies for rabbiting on and on I am now getting to the crux of my message.
During the first 3 years I never had a problem seeing my now 9 year old daughter. In the last year she has had some angry moments and prevented however briefly access to her. The most recent is now and it has dawned on me that anytime she is annoyed with me for whatever imagined injustice she will do this.
I realise now i have to try and get some court order for access because apart from my rights as a dad my 9 year old daughter really does need me in her life.
My Ex has also been very abusive to me via messages, using words like scumbag, stating that i would never see my daughter again, that she doesn't love me, i'm like a stranger to her. Nasty, vicious and i have say hurtful comments. I am pleased to report I have not responded angrily and resisted any vitriol.
I want these damaging abusive comments to stop, nobody has a right to say this to anyone. I am not a softy and i have always thought i would brush off these statements but i/m afraid they do hurt and it's really not fair.
Any help would be appreciated

Hi.
Can anybody help me in finding a post i made yesterday (11/02/20) i believe in the legal category.
Wondered if there had been any replies

hi, yes theres replies.

see here: https://www.dad.info/forum/legal-eagle/52155-denied-access-to-my-9-yr-old-daughter#104249