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I was with my partner for almost 8 years. We were engaged until may this year, We have 3 kids. 6, 3 & 2. She left me @ the start of the month Dec 4th 2017.
She took the 2 younger ones, even though i was not happy about her doing this, i could not cover all 3 kids & work @ the same time. So the oldest has stayed here until the school winter holidays & is intended to head down after new year to a new school, that she has as yet not confirmed a placement.
She claimed back on the 25th november via a text, while we were still doing feeble communications & before she left, that she wanted me to move down with her, she really just wanted to move from where we are to where he mum is based, it WAS Preston, but its now Crewe. She said we would stay with her mother for a time until we sorted out the finances and a few other items. Sounded possible & it offered some option for progress.
She has lied about many things & although not physically cheated, that i am aware of, i have caught her "sexting" other men, on top of that she has not put any contributions to the house bill account since April this year, another issue she refuses to actually speak to me about.
She has been consistantly paying the council tax, (until she has left that is) that has always been the agreement but effectively all other house bills i end up paying, even the mortgage. the mortgage IS a joint setup.
However a week ago, the oldest, said she does not want to live with her mum and i still have reservations regarding moving south, especially in the status of the relationship.
I have parents based a little north, i COULD sell this house (agreed with the mother) and move north. My parents would effectively ensure she went to the local school & general care while i worked.
Since she has left, in the few times i have called, she has been cold & hostile towards me, with the latest call ending with her hangning up mid conversationl. I had intended to congratulate her on gettin work sorted out, but the call never got that far.
I seek advice in regards for the latter statement.
I am in full time employment based in Aberdeen, a school, 5 minute walk from the house. I need to know all my legal options in regards to allowing to stay with me.
My present residence is north east scotland.
Hi there
There are differences between Scottish and English family law, but I would think, as your eldest is still with you, that you would be in a position to apply for an urgent residence order. For further information I would suggest that you give The Scottish Children's Legal Centre a call, here's a link to their website
www.sclc.org.uk
It might also be helpful for you to contact Families Need Fathers Scotland, here's a link to contact details for their branch offices, with contact numbers. When you follow the link, scroll down to the bottom where you'll find info on the Scottish meetings.
www.fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings
Sorry I can't give much advice but you should be able to get the advice you need from the links I have provided.
All the best
I would definitely get advice from sclc quickly - from an English legal standpoint, England and Scotland are separate countries, if it's the same in Scottish Law, then she could be prevented from taking them to England as it is out of the country.
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