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Hi guys, first time poster. :woohoo:
Im looking to take my daughter away for a week in sep-oct but her mother is point blank refusing to allow me to take her. Is there a way I can force the issue? Talking nicely seems to be getting me nowhere.
Me & her mother get on ok and have set days every week I see my daughter. I see her for a couple of hours mon & wed and I get her over night on a friday into saturday afternoon. I pay money direct to her mum every month and into my daughters savings account. I pay my way for everything. My daughter is 2 in october and has already been away for a week abroad with her mother earlier in the year 😮 . My name is linked to her passport but mother says "i can book it all I want but its not happening!" I've never been allowed to have her for the weekend or more than 1 night. I dont want to go down the legal route with set times etc as things do suit both of us as it is at the moment. We are on decent terms and both attend daughters doctors appointments etc together with no issues. I know if i go down that route I would probably get my daughter for weekends but I want to keep peace.
Anyone got a bit of advice?
Cheers
Hi there.... I take it that your contact arrangements have been agreed between yourselves and you do not have a court order?
Here's a link that might be helpful
https://www.gov.uk/permission-take-child-abroad
Unless you have a court order that states permission to take your daughter abroad your only alternative would be Mediation & applying to the court for a Specific Issue Order.
Good luck 🙂
Thanks for the reply.
Yes, all contact agreements have been agreed between us since we split.
That link looks like a good help! Cheers! 🙂
I am in the same boat! - My ex and daughter are away in Portugal for the week and return this Sunday - When i asked about holiday i was told that it would have to be 3 days maximum and that I would have to pay for her time outside of nursery hours despite my weekly maintenance payments.
Hi Barty, have you included holidays in your Child Arrangement Order application? It's worth asking the courts to make a decision on this so it is written into any order you obtain.
Not quite sure what you mean about 'pay for her time outside of nursery hours'? Do you mean your ex wants you to pay the nursery fees for the days your daughter misses?
Hi 1626 I need to look closely at the C100 but will make sure that I include any reference to holiday time because at the moment it isn't really working at all.
My ex has put in writing through a solicitor in the last letter:
If xxxxxx is to miss nursery as a result of holiday contact our client would ask for a contribution from you towards these additional expenses which she would incur.
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