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Hello everyone.
I'm 22 years old and have been in a relationship with my Girlfriend for 5 months, she is now 3 months pregnant. I love this girl more than anything! And our relationship was great until we found out she was pregnant!
Everything was great until after we found out she was pregnant, she says that I have become more and more distant from her and i say the same about her, we argue at least once a week and I'm terrified I'm going to push her away and lose her! I love her so much but recently I've just been feeling negative all the time and scared about becoming a dad and worried about the future of our relationship. I don't see her much as she is at college and I work nights. I feel like I don't have anyone to talk to about my worries and I'm desperate to get some help. I've suffered from depression a few years back and was even hospitalised for a month, I have suffered from PTSD and I'm scared that I'm going to relapse with all the stress.
I'm sorry for the long paragraph I'm not so good with things like this. Thanks for any help anyone can give me.
Ali
I think becoming a dad is giving you a bit of a pressure, that's a normal thing for the first time dad. Just be there for your girlfriend and don't let her be stressed out because she's carrying your child, it might affect her pregnancy, just be glad that you're becoming a dad. Good luck.
Hi there and welcome to the Forum
I'm sorry to hear you are struggling, becoming a parent is huge and it's little wonder that you are feeling overwhelmed. Try not to worry, your anxiety may be having an affect on your moods and this may in turn be affecting your relationship.
Try and talk to you girlfriend about how you are feeling and make time when you are both off work and college to do things together. A bunch of flowers or a romantic card with some loving words goes a long way....little gestures mean a lot.
Remember too that her hormones will be all over the place so try and make allowances for her moods and
Show her you understand how she's feeling.
If you are worried about the depression returning then it might help to speak to your GP about it whist it's still fairly managable. Good luck with it all.
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