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Morning all.
So I've posted on here before a few times. I've got 3 more court hearings in January, which I'm dreading. I've started to see a Councillor for how I'm feeling and what my wife has done to me. You see I've been married to who I thought was the love of my life. We have 4 beautiful children, who I've not had any contact with whatsoever since June this year. My wife has totally discarded me. People say, just move on and fight to see the kids, of which I am doing. But the thing is this total rejection and for her to steal all the money that left me homeless is so painful I feel terrible. I just can't get my head around how she has done this. She had an affair in 2012, which was unbelievable, but we or so I thought worked on our marriage, and had 2 more children some time later. How can it be that she has just " moved on", and is trying to destroy me, with allegations and lies about me. I wasn't an angel in our marriage, but Im not what she has made out to people. No one tlaks to me anymore, as she has smeared my name. My children miss me and want to see me, and I worry she is affecting them. We'll I know she is as my 11 year old daughter is self harming. Anyone have any idea why a woman can suddenly just change, become nasty, spiteful and vindictive? As I've said I've got 3 more court hearings to go. But I don't want to do all this. Being in the court and seeing my wife, having to fight her, to see the children. It's like she now become an enemy, when only 6 months ago she told me how much I was the family rock and that she loved me, bla bla bla. She's already been in 2 relationships since I've been ejected from the home. I'm so lost, hurt and confused... Thanks for reading this..
Keep digging in Devo and keep you head up. You are nearly there!!
it is a horrible time and I am sorry to hear one of your children are self harming. It does sound like your ex is using the kids as a weapon, which isnt nice for anyone. But she got told off last time at court, your kids have said they want to see you. It is just another waiting game for you, it will be over soon and I hope you get what you deserve!!!
Hi Devo
Some people want to have relationships but their kind of bond with partner isn’t has strong they don’t know how to love someone properly so they pretend too
I don’t know how someone can do it for years but it happens they seek out people who are givers people like you and they take what they can from the person they act like they love them but it’s a lie, I feel that you have picked a very bad person who it’s showing their true colours to you now it appears she has issues keeping relationships ie you saying she has been in 2 since you split again this could be a mental health issue or something in her why she can’t keep relationships
I know it’s really hard for you I’m glad you’re seeking help but you need to look at it that’s is her mental health that’s the issue here she didn’t love you the way you deserve to be loved hopefully in January the judge will see this for what it is parent alienation and let you have decent access to your children but until then keeping talking to people and keep positive!
Hi needhelp 83. You've made absolute sense. Thank you for your time and help..
I'm completely on this with you
I was in very similar situation to yours.
my heart took a lot of beating ,washed me of all my feelings ,squashed it and moved on with day to day life
but the nightmares coming back ,reading some of these comments at moments makes me optimistic and then I find posts like yours ,what's leave me devastated.One thing I know we all need to face it because we love we care and our kids needs us.
Hopefully you doing good with the road you have to go though.
I wish you all the best and this world positive energy give you strength
hi yes,
i was totally discarded and know the pain. 3 young kids involved. dont give a dam about her any more.i am just 100% focused on the kids and trying to secure more time with them.
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