The truth about the English family court system

Hello

First of all I have to sympathise with all father that fight for the right to have some sort of relationship with his child/children.

I am a very positive, upbeat person, but after years of torment and stress wish to share my story in the hope that it will expose the corrupt family legal system in England

I have always been a law abiding citizen. I worked in the armed forces, for government intelligence agencies, was in the police and never got into any trouble at all (infact I am security cleared to the highest level in England).

I was/am an old father in his 40's, but like many, was the happiest man in the world to receive the news that I was going to be a father.

The result - me and my daughter's mother split and she was just interested in one thing ($$).
After she had made several false accusations to the police about threatening her (so she could get legal aid) and denied me contact to our daughter I decided to take her to court.

I paid out thousands in solicitors fees and it got to the point where I could no longer afford this.
I had to study and represent myself in court. She got legal aid as concocted some story about how her ex tried to kill her (for which she had him put in prison) and I had apparently threatened to give her new identity and whereabouts to him (even though I didn't have a clue who he was (and would never do such a thing!)).

I was both astonished and broken to be told by the judge that I was only allowed "indirect contact", after I had spent months bonding with my newborn daughter (the most precious person in my life).

At the time I was paying £250 a month to my ex. I stopped my payments as was upset. She waited 2 days to report me to CMS. I subsequently received a letter advising my payments would now be £400 a month for ZERO contact!

I followed the rules and wrote a letter each month and drove 100 miles to deliver a gift to her solicitor.

Then her solicitor advised they would no longer facilitate the exchange of such things as her legal aid would not pay for this.

I somehow managed to get my ex to setup an email address and this is the only contact I have had since (3 years ago). I am lucky to get 1 email every 3 months gloating about how well she is with all her children. She is "apparantly" still waiting for counsilling for PTSD and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy caused by her ex partner (which she has children to).

Her accusations of me threatening her on FB/text were false and I gave up all my electronic devices to the police to investigate (including access to internet providers and mobile phone companies) as I had nothing to hide at all as these were all false accusations. I thought that this would be fine but unfortunately, even though there was zero evidence, it was deemed that she was so scared I would "kidnap" our daughter, the judge advised that it was not in her mothers best interests to allow me contact.

My poor daughter has not seen me since. Her mother has since had other children to other men and is now single. I was always told by CAFCASS that it's all about the children, yet they seem happy to want this generation to be brought up by single mothers and not have any father involvement (except his money of course).

Unfortunately I eventually decided to leave England, my loving family, job, home and sold everything I had worked all my life for as I could not afford to live due to the payments plus the stress of it all affected my health enormously.

I am now living a solitary life in a foreign country many miles away.

The CMS advised that the case would be closed as it was a permanent move abroad but I now found out that they are accruing my debt so I can never return to England. I have not only had my daughter kidnapped from me but also my parents, siblings, their children etc.

These stories never make headlines and we are left to suffer.

Fortunately I am of very strong character and intelligence,

The best thing I ever did was escape the stranglehold of the British justice system and I am so very grateful for that, however there is not a day or night that goes by that I do not miss my beautiful princess and speak to the photos I have of her with me 🙁

I am a realist and not a pessimist but don't hold out your hopes - I did this and was brought down to earth with a bang.

It's ironic that I used to work on the domestic violence team as a Police Officer and saw countless men beat their partner within an inch of their lives - yet they never got the same punishment as myself!

Good riddance to England and the twisted family court legal system!!

It sounds like a story made up when I read it but I can assure you all that this is a 1st hand, honest story from a completely innocent, decent, educated person!

Things need to change in England as the system is setup for financial gain but I cannot see this happening!

God bless you all 🙂