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Hello guys just out of intrest what reaction did you get when your ex gets the court letters for the first time I feel so overwhelmed as nothing hits the heart more than kids ,how does it feel seeing your ex at court for first time when you havnt Spoke for 3 months were you in the same waiting room how awkward !!!!
And lastly when you have been awarded supervised contact does that mean you must see your child and try and bond in your ex house after going to court that would be so tense that first knock in the door
it all depends on the circumstances, but anything at all can set you back emotionally, so the better prepared yuo are, the easier it is.
Supervised contact depends on the court, and who it is to be supervised by - contact centres mean you don't see your ex at all, but there is usually a cost involved, so I'd find your local contact centre and find that out.
Hi there
Generally you are all in the same waiting room, unless you request a separate waiting area....mostly people are fairly well behaved as its a public place. It might be better to take a family member or friend with you for moral support though.
usually the exs house isn't appropriate and if she suggests it I wouldn't agree, counter it with a trusted family member on your side...a grandparent for instance, but also have information to hand about local contact centres and ask for costs to be shared. Here's a link to the Contact centres website where you'll, find info about centres in your area.
www.naccc.org.uk
Best of luck
Me personally I think grandparents are best neutral ground for handovers and if I need to be supervised why not use grandparents rather than contact centre fingers crossed never know what will happen
Hi There,
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I think as said above, the chances are you will see your ex in the waiting room at court, though they are usually large enough to be able to sit far enough apart that there won't be an issue. My advice with this is to arrive as early as possible, so that hopefully you are there first and can find a quiet corner to sit in out of the way, then when your ex arrives, it's down to her whether she sits near you or not. As already said if you can take someone with you for support, I went alone a few times and it's boring just sitting there especially with the emotional issues thrown in, so someone to talk with will help, they won't be allowed in the court room with you, so a book or something for them would be good ready for when you go in.
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