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Hi,
The mother of my daughter took me to court yesterday for breaching a restraining order for the second time that has been in place for the past 12 months. Due to the non aggressive nature of the message and a few character references from friends and my workplace, i had a shave and arrived all smart, suited and booted i avoided jail by the skin of my teeth.I actually i got the best possible result, a Β£700 fine and a telling off from the magistrates. Unluckily i got an indefinite time span on the current restraining order thats in place. So in a nut shell, i cant possibly contact her or any of her family directly or indirectly at any time and for any reason or i will 100% be sent to prison.
However this is not stopping me from taking this back to family court, if i am at-all lucky enough to be successful are there any organisations that can be a third party to mediate and negotiate possible contact?..I can not use a social worker as social services are not involved, and i cant ask for them to be involved as they will refuse to due to that fact my child is in no danger, solicitors will be to expensive and i will most certainly have to pay.
Any suggestions i would be grateful
Paul
Hopefully you will learn not to contact now.
If you are lucky enough to get some contact sorted, at this stage, the only choice I can see is a contact centre for visits and ultimately for using as a handover service.
Hi Yoda,
The only contact centre i had has now closed down due to lack of volunteers and there is no way she will travel to one. Do you not think i have a good chance of another contact order because of these circumstances??
Paul
There's no doubt you've made it even harder for yourself, I would agree with Yoda that a Contact Centre would be necessary to facilitate contact/handovers. You could try proposing a trusted family member to assist with handovers, but depending how long it's been since you saw your child, the court would want you to reestablish contact under supervision, and a contact centre would be the place for that to happen.
Ok, thank you for the replies
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