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Hi All, i'm pretty sure what i'm going to ask has already been covered, but i'm desperate, as my payment is comming up, so apoligises in advance. My daughter turned 19 in Jan and has got a job au pairing in Spain and will be leaving college and flying out 22nd of this month, i was under the impression i would only have to pay i more week, but more ex has told me in no uncertain terms that i will have to continue paying until 31st May as that is when her child benefit finishes, is this correct? If so i will be pretty miffed, any help will be much appreciated; by the way the csa is not involved, thanks in advance
Hi there
Generally, child benefit/maintenance payments continue on for a few weeks after your child leaves full time education, to allow the receiving parent to adjust.
As you have a private arrangement and your child won't be living with her mother when she goes to Spain, you can negotiate with the mother stopping before 31st May, if you feel strongly enough about it.
Perhaps you could suggest that you pay the maintenance directly to your daughter to help her settle into her new job and living away. I don't see how the mother should object to that and at least it won't be going into her pocket!
Ultimately, as it's a private arrangement, if you stop paying, all your ex can do is to go to the CMS and open a case. That will cost her £20, and realistically, whether the CMS would actually open a case for for 8 weeks (less with the time it takes to actually get to write to you), I very much doubt - and even if they did, worst case is that you pay maintenance until the 31st May, so you're no worse off, and probably a lot better off.
NJ's suggestion of agreeing to pay directly to your daughter is a good compromise, so I'd try that first though.
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