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hi sorry if you heard this before, but am at my wits end ,I have 4 children from 3 to 9 we have been separated 3 years she left me ,I have been there from day one with all my children I have them Friday till Sunday 3times a month,an during holidays depending on what holiday I have them for a 3-7days on top of an as well. the thing is my ex is fine when everything going her way but if she doesn't like something then she stops me seeing my children! an the last time was the last straw for me, my 9&7 year old said they wanted to live with me and of course she then stopped them from coming. I have always been in there life, just today my eldest was texting me telling me to go get him, it broke my heart. Any help please would be very grateful we were together for 9 years but unmarried.
get a solicitor and do it the right way like I am now its hard and stressful takes time and money but you will have a written letter but all children say things like that they may even be at yours and say the same to their mother thats how they play you both to get their way hope it helps
Hi Stressed Dad and welcome
I would have a word with the National Family Mediation first (if possible, see if you can ask your ex if she'd be prepared to attend) - their number is: 0300 4000 636
I'd agree with both the above post's,
Children will say to each perent what they think they want to hear at times as it makes them feel better about things, they will play the 2 of you off against each other.
That said I would try mediation and see if you can discuss things with a 3rd party present and reach an agreement, I would try this before going down the full on legal route as any agreement made in mediation can be made legally binding afterwards.
If the 2 of you can get to a point of being able to comunicate then you will be able to let each other know what the children are saying when they are with you making it harder for them to play you off against each other.
Darren
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