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Hi all
Just been sent papers in relation to a Specific Issue Order and scheduled hearing date.
The subject is in relation to my children's schooling. My children are 9 & 7. I have them 4 nights in every 14. Thursday - Monday morning.
They have always gone to school in a town about 15 mins drive from me. They love it and are very happy there.
about 2 years ago their mother moved in with her boyfriend which extended her journey to the school. Its now a 35 minute trip for her.
My ex had a baby with her new partner a few months ago & out of the blue emailed me to say she wanted to move the childrens school (mid year) to a school on her doorstep. I did not agree and subsequently it is going to be heard in court.
Her reasons given are that.... 'its in the children's best interests' and they need to make more friends where they live.
My children are distraught at the idea of leaving all their friends.
For me... it would mean I could no longer collect my children from school or drop them off during the days i have them. As the place they live is in the opposite direction to where i work.
Their mother is on mat leave and is not returning to work afterwards.
I am getting legal advise but interested to understand peoples views on this???
p.s. The mother and i no do not have an amicable relationship!
It's impossible to predict the outcome here, but I think she may be successful because of the new baby and the fact that the children's journey to and from school at the moment is quite long.
If it looks like she is going to allowed to change schools, I would push for her to do the travelling to drop the kids off with you, or at least to share the burden, to enable the same quality of contact to continue.
All the best
It’s probably worth me adding then..: my wife and I also recently had a baby. So the children now have a half sister here with us.
That could make a slight difference, this will really be down to the judge on the day... It could go either way.
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