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Hello forum I have a 12 year old son that lives in San Diego his mother originally wanted to take him out there for three years she remarried and had chance to live out there with her new husband and new son as he was headhunted for his company I Originally agreed for a three-year term in doing this she halved child maintenance so that I can afford flights to see him, since doing this flights are over £1000 + hotels for when I'm there, days out eating etc it has turned out to be quite costly - she has now dropped it on me that they have all applied for green cards and have been excepted and now want to stay further six years I don't know where I stand on this as I feel I am missing out on the golden years of my sons youth, he has A wonderful life out there and he tells me he'd like to stay - I can't say no to this as I want the best for him however its expensive to see him and I get the feeling he won't come home much due to cost
can I put a stop to this ? can I make her pay for my flights et cetera I'm at a loose end please help
I guess the priority here are the wishes and feelings of the child, as you rightly recognise.
If you had a court order in place for the initial agreement of three years then you could return it to court for enforcement and try and get an agreement for her to contribute financially, paying for him to travel back to the Uk during school holidays perhaps....but would he want to leave his friends as his life is over there now.
At your sons age though he may not want to spend his leisure time away from all his friends....that's the problem with situations like this I'm afraid....and if you were able to take it back to court, there are no guarantees that you would get a result.
I think your best bet is to try and renegotiate with the mother .
Do you or anyone else know my rights on having to pay maintanance whilst he's out there ?
I am reasonably sure that your ex could apply through the CMS and they would calculate the full sum and you'd have to pay this. It might be worth giving them a call to see what the situation is.
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