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Hi All
Probably like most, I’m sitting here baffled/frustrated/angry/confused/stressed by my spouse. And looking for advice from anyone else who has been through similar.
Background:
After 2 years of mediation and bad information from my spouse in which the mediator was absolutely useless (Just caving in to ever increasing unjustified demands), and concealment of financial information. I have now spent £15k on a solicitor to get me to the point where my spouse is now being truthful.
(We are going to FDR in Jan 2025)
Now that I can see all her financial records, salary, mortgage raising capacity calculations etc, It turns out that at 50/50 split of the FMH, and using just two thirds of her mortgage raising capacity, (£120k from £178k max) and taking into account her over inflating budgeting needs per month (You name it, its in there) She can afford the property she proposed in the local area and it is within her own documented budgets.
We have 1 child (12) where its been agreed 50/50 parenting time, so no child maintenance order saught by any party.
I have invested £250k just into the house itself vs her £30k.
And yet she still is demanding 70 – 75 % of all assets. Meaning she effectively wouldn’t even need a mortgage to buy a new house!
She has had solicitors and now has a barrister. Aren’t these “professionals” supposed to be guiding her on what she Is likely to receive in court?
She has an air of confidence that I do not understand. Am I missing something?
My solicitor is equally baffled at her confidence
Has anyone been through something similar where its clear a 50/50 split easily achieves her desired outcome? Yet were taken to court still for more? and got more?
The only other relevant information is that I earn roughly double what she does.
hi,
some solicitors give unrealistic advice, as well as hoping to drag out proceedings, in order to make more money.
if you spent 15k up to this point, then your final bill could be 30-50k. I think your better off dropping solicitors and you negotiate directly with her solicitors. and send without prejudice offers. as she is not primary carer of child, I think there is good chance of a 50/50 split of assets. if you need further advice, you can private message me.
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