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A long one - I've been separated from kids' mother for over 3 years. In the separation agreement it was written up that I'd have the 2 kids every 2nd weekend and every Monday tea. After a few years, I wanted more time with kids and verbally agreed with ex I would take kids for a sleepover every Wednesday. This has been in place for 2 years. All a sudden she has taken Wednesday from me and wants to revert back to Monday, with no reason to justify it. Note I have also changed my work shifts to accommodate school pick-up and drop-off for the wednesday into thursday. She does not drive therefore I do all pick-ups and collections, I told her if she wanted to go back to Monday tea time, she needed to make arrangements to pick up the kids. I received a letter almost 72 hours later from her solicitor to say I had to do all pick ups and drop-offs in my time with them. I instructed my solicitor to reply to change the written agreement to state it will be every Wednesday. This was 6 weeks ago and my solicitor still has not heard from her solicitor, my solicitor has also sent a chaser. Considering her solicitor was quick to instruct me to do drop off and pick ups but now won't reply to a change of agreement. Does anyone know why this would be? and what are my next steps with this? My solicitor did say to me the kids are of age to make up their own decision on where they want to be. But just not sure why I have not heard back or is this another game she is playing?
hi,
it could be that your ex did not give any more instructions to her solicitor, so they have gone silent. how old are the kids?
i think it would be better if you continue picking and dropping kids. are you planning on using solicitors like this in long term? going to be very expensive.
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