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I am a 32 year old father in Washington state. I left my relationship with my 4 year old sons mother in November of 2015. I was the finical provider in the relationship, and she was a stay at home mother. She had got pregnant at the beginning of the relationship. Things were very bumpy from the beginning of the relationship. The relationship was very toxic and unhealthy. I stayed for 3 years in hopes things might change, and thought I was doing what was best for our son. I had finally hit my breaking point and decided to leave the relationship in November of 2015. Being how I was the main provider. We still live together for almost a year after the "break up". As of January 2017 with my support she is financially able to stay a float. I moved out the first of January. For the most part our non legal parenting plan has been somewhat civil and fair. She works part time and on weekends and one day of the week. I have had my son every weekend, and on the weekday I have him after work and out him to sleep at her house. Like I said for the most part things are usually pretty civil and calm. Although she does suffer from depression, bi polar dissorder and other mental illnesses. She is still very hurt and bitter over me leaving her and breaking up our family. I have zero regrets on leaving her. My life has flourished since and I've done nothing but become a better father a better man and all around better person.
As of late she has been very hard to deal with. I've recently sparked up a romantic interest with someone I am really into. My son has not met this woman and I've had no intentions on bringing her around him until I am certain I see a future with this woman and his mother has met her. She is very very bitter and jealous about this entire situation. She has been threatening to keep my son away from me if I continue this relationship with this woman. Threatening to do everything in her power to make sure I am unhappy. She knows the only way she can hurt me is by keeping him from me. She's told me she will never allow this woman around HER son. And as long as I am involved with her I will have very little visitation with our son.
I just don't know what to do. I would never choose a woman over my son. But I have to have some rights as a father and as a man. Am I expected just to play her game and abide to her ridiculous rules. It's just unfair. I know that she knows how she is acting is unfair. She just doesn't not want me to be happy. One day she is apologizing for acting out and verbally abusing me and saying ridiculous things. And the next day it's back to irrational thinking and freaking out and threats. I don't want to lose being able to see my son as often as I am at the moment. But where do I draw the line.
I simply don't know what to do. Any insight or advice will be much appreciated.
Be aggresive fm1 followed by a c100 =every other weekend
What is a fm1 and c100?
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