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https://www.change.org/p/the-goverment-review-child-maintenance
Please open link and take time to read it. we all agree we need to pay for our children but if we are having them just as much as the mother then we already are so why are we being forced to pay csa! please sign petition.
I don't disagree with a lot of points this petition is making, but it is aimed at changing the CSA scheme, which is being replaced with the CMS, which addresses some of the issues, certainly where there is genuine 50/50 shared care.
Also, beware - if you "penalise" the mother by reducing maintenance if care is shared more equally, then you are giving her an incentive to reduce the level of contact, as a lot of fathers on here have found.
I'll put it like this I'm 37 nights off a pure 50:50 shared care arrangement. My ex works full time and hires a nanny.
In the order (as thin as they are) that next year mid - 2016, we do move into a 50:50 shared care, but until then I am ending up paying maintainance and for half costs for a nanny who I don't get the benefit of using.
I've decided to go back to court to have this amended to match csa which is fair compared to what a court would go for to allow dad gets access.
If you are paying maintenance through a court order that is over 12 months old you can open a case with the CMS and this will override the court order.
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