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Hi all,
I got divorced from my wife when my daughter was 15 years old. Part of the divorce agreement was to pay £406 per month, to my ex wife, to support my daughter. All well and good and I had no problems with that and I made the payments.
BUT
At the age of sixteen my daughter found out that she was pregnant and now has a six month old son and is receiving benefits from the government. She does not attend college due to the baby and I still continue to make the payments to my ex-wife.
Do I still have to pay the £406 to my ex-wife or, can I pay it directly to my daughter instead?
Is she still registered as attending college? What are the conditions, for continued payment of child support, as stated in the court order?
If you were paying through the CMS, as your child is receiving benefits, I don’t think the mother would be entitled to payment. However if the mother was still claiming child benefit, that would make it difficult to prove that your liability had finished. As it’s a court order, once the criteria for payment changes, I would assume you would be able to stop paying.
If possible, it would be a good idea to try and discuss this with the mother, if she won’t agree you could tell her that you are going to stop payments and see what her reaction is. If you’re going to finance your daughter and her child, surely she wouldn’t object to that.
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