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so, this is a long story. Please bear with me. I remarried this year seven years after divorcing, nine years after meeting my new partner. The early years after separation were [censored] as my ex-wife descended into dysfunctional alcoholism and nearly died. She is now been dry for nearly 3 years and is doing well. Throughout the situation, having left her for a younger woman, feelings of guilt have been huge. However, the marriage was dead. We came to what was a roughly 60/40% agreement when it came to splitting of the assets, she having paid a fortune for to legal advice, while I insisted on not using a lawyer. I simply wanted to move on with enough to restart and put a deposit on a flat. Her fall into dysfunctional alcoholism was rapid, although she’d had a problem in the past one which was, to put it bluntly, at the root of our problems. She received a five year driving ban having been seen drinking in the car; the boys ended up moving to my flat; I looked after them for four years without any contribution whatsoever from her during those years. This evening having tried to avoid any contact with her for the past few months she approached me making numerous accusations and threatening to take me back to court for more money, something which I find astonishing given that she has made no contribution over the past few years and that I looked after the children. She said that we had not settled things financially, and while this may be true on paper, the fact is that I settled for far less money than the 50-50 I was entitled to and looked after the children during those years during which she fell into dysfunctional alcoholism. Surely, she hasn’t a leg to stand on, especially given that I also paid her outstanding debts To a mad boyfriend and did everything I could in my power to help her. she has simply thrown everything back in my face qnd appears to want to continue with this horrible war until the day we die. Not sure what to do; I don’t want to burden my new wife with any more of my troubles with my ex. She’s been incredibly supportive but doesn’t deserve or need to have to listen to any of my angst. Can my wife really expect to get anything out of me when I’ve been the one in charge of the kids over the past few years? Surely not? Any advice really appreciated. Thanks in advance
hi,
but you settled on 60/40 regarding assets right? if finances have been dealt with, I doubt she would be entitled to anything else. your primary carer of the kids and you receive child benefit?
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