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Hi I'm a separate dad. My ex plans on moving away from our local area to live with her boyfriend. This means that she shall half my son and I contact also will be changing his school he is p1 and moving away from all of his family on both side. I feel that this is not in our sons best intrests so plan to try for residency. I have tried to speak to her reasonably about this but all I get back is I need a life to. It is all me me me. I would be looking to give her every weekend except once a month. I would also factor in her perants as he spends a Monday night there if they are willing keep this going giving her another chance for contact. She works close by. Also the move would mean he wouldn't see my parents as he does now on a wed and thur when they pick him up from school for me till I finish work. I plan to represent myself as I can't afford a solicitor. I would appreciate any advice on what information the courts would like to see from me and how to conduct myself. It would a great help for any advice
Hi There,
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Being honest with you, with the situation you are in, I can't see you gaining residency unless your ex is in agreement to you having it.
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The courts don't like to remove a child from the mother unless there are very good reasons (drink, drug abuse or physical abuse)
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Thats not to say you can't win but you will have a hard battle on your hands so be ready.
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The only advice I can give you if you are going to try is ensure that you have a full plan of every aspect of care for your son, cover as you have contact with your ex and her family, also child care while you are at work, and to cover school holidays ect, the more you can do to show you have covered every base the better.
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GTTS
Thanks for the reply. I totally understand that I have a hard fight on my hand but feel it has to be done for his sake. I feel that coming to live with me will cause the least disruption to my son's life. The plans I have would mean that my ex would still see our son as much as she does at the moment. I also plan to factor in time for him with her parents as in Mon night over night and tue till 7 as it is just now which she could see him and have morn contact. If they are willing to continue with this. My parents are very supportive and are happy to help any way they can ie picking him up from school/ helping in holidays but my work are also willing to be flexible to work around our need. I would also be looking to split holidays equally with my ex.
I do whole heartedly believe this is what would be best for my son and wish it didn't have to come to this but am having my hand forced. I owe it to my son to fight for what I believe to be in his best intrests but do not feel that the courts would have my back on this. It should not be a case of they don't like to take kids for their mothers it should be a case of what is best for the child and losing alot of contact with family is not what's best.
My ex regularly uses cannabis which I believe she uses before picking my son up. Then driving with him while stoned. I can not prove this but have considered calling the police and informing them of this and who where she would be while doing this
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