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my daughter is 4 months old i was seeing her every saterday and every sunday for two hours on each day i kept askin babys mom for couple more hours and for bottle to feed my daughter and was told no i couldnt buy milk as it had to be got from doctor because she carnt have cows milk i feel she was restricting me knowing i couldnt feed her and i couldnt go anywere incase of emergancy i am no taking her to court as she has put me in contact centre 2 hours every two weeks i feel i am gettin no where at all
Hi,
Unfortunately this is the process you have to go through sometimes. I know its hard but at this very moment be thankful you are seeing your child and dont push the wrong buttons or you could see yourself having to go through the courts to get access. I am unsure why your situation has come to this but go with the flow, build up the trust, show your a willing father and if the mother is a good mother the rest will follow.
Take this advice from somebody who has not followed the above and now has nothing for the foreseeable future
All the best
Paul
Hi there,
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The above advice is good advice, if you are able to keep this out of the court system then the arrangement you would have would hopefully be a much better and stronger one, however if your ex won't start to allow longer contact and overnights then your only option would be to go through the court system.
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This would start with mediation, where you would be able to talk openly with a 3rd party present to help to keep things on track and hopefully help to build a good agreement.
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If you fail in mediation or your ex won't attend then you would need to apply to court for a child arrangement order.
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GTTS
Hi
The advice I gave on your other post has been repeated by GTTS
Give the mediation a go first if you can.
Good luck
it is already going to court i was seein my baby girl for 2 hours sat and 2 hours sun and cuz i asked for another coupke hours she has stopped contact and put me in contact centre only seein my little girl for 2 hours every two weeks now
Hi there
Have you got a date for the hearing?
Hopefully, the court will quickly see that there are no reasons for the reduction in contact, or using a contact centre and will get things moving forward quickly.
Once the application has been accepted by the court, CAFCASS will contact you for a short interview, usually by phone. This is to provide the court with information about any safeguarding issues, or local authority involvement and will contain recommendations to the court for contact, or if further, more detailed reports are required.
Best of luck
ye papers have been sent waiting on court date but could take another 8 weeks im told to get to court just seems such a long time for me. ot to see my little girl properly
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