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Hi all
Ex-partner is highly manipulative, sneaky and abusive (emotionally and psychologically). Access was cut with false allegations of DV so mother could get more money in the financial remedies. No evidence to support this. I filed a C100 for our child to live with me and spend time with her mother. Section 7 went against me due to:
- Conflict (i tried to avoid it and said multiple times there's no conflict from myside but mother keeps coming up with new false allegations and evil)
- Because I got stuck in a contact center as supervisors were rejected by mother until section 7 report, the report says I do not currently spend enough time with our child for her to move residence
Cafcass visited our child and he said he wants to spend everyday with father and doesn't want to be around her mother (she's emotionally abusive but difficult to provec). Also shows evidence of mother using cafcass officer photograph and telling him to say negative about dad. Other evidence of coaching behaviour too. Despite our child wanting to live with me cafcass have ignored it saying child is too young. I have been recommended a titration of visits unsupervised and then for us to work out the rest or go to final hearing. I can't work anything out with a toxic person who wants me to have 0 impact in our child's life except my money.
How do I get out of this situation and instead go for 50/50. Honestly, is the case likely to be over for me so I can mentally prepare? Can a barrister use the coaching comments from cafcass and argue 50/50 effectively or is it a waste of time. Cafcass also said they will attend next final dispute hearing due to sickness and they have discharged themselves from the case. Seems like satus quo decides the fate. What can I say to list my case with a judge to see if they can go against the section 7 report. Cafcass did telephone interviews with myself and my ex-partner (ex-partners interview was just slinging mud, mainly finances) and have not seen us together with our child. Contact centre reports are very positive.
I feel I let our child down, like a failure. Solicitor was awful and really damaged my case (going for primary carer trying to move residence instead of equal daily care and also telling me not to go to the contact centre at all as it was disproportionate). Thankfully, i got a cheap barrister for the last hearing and I got contact centre reports to move to unsupervised visits.
Please help me - i'd rather hear the truth no matter how much it hurts. Thanks all, I feel so bad for others that are in this mess.
Hi,
How old is child? You can try your best to argue against s7 report, but chances are the judges will follow its recommendations. If 50/50 not possible, try secure as much contact as possible.
Hi,
How old is child? You can try your best to argue against s7 report, but chances are the judges will follow its recommendations. If 50/50 not possible, try secure as much contact as possible.
@bill337 Child is 4 years old. Mother will say anything to stop 50/50 as she wants maintenance and to alienate my family and I. Does not working 4-5 days a week help increase the amount of days? Doesn't make sense for child to be cared for mother on the days I am off work and she using childcare from her family.
@bill337 Child is 4 years old. Mother will say anything to stop 50/50 as she wants maintenance and to alienate my family and I. Does not working 4-5 days a week help increase the amount of days? Doesn't make sense for child to be cared for mother on the days I am off work and she using childcare from her family.
@bill337 Child is 4 years old. Mother will say anything to stop 50/50 as she wants maintenance and to alienate my family and I. Does not working 4-5 days a week help increase the amount of days? Doesn't make sense for child to be cared for mother on the days I am off work and she using childcare from her family.
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