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Hello All
I'm new to this site and this is the first time I'm posting here.
I've come here to seek advice, guidance and support.
Last Thursday night, I got home from work to find that my wife of 16 years has 'left me' (she left a note) and taken our 4 children (all under the age of 13) with her.
To date, I've not been able to contact her or them. Her family & close friends (that I know of) are aware & all seem to 'be in the know'. They are protecting or hiding her. She's obviously fed them a steady diet of tales such as to justify doing something like this and them covering her as well.
I don't know where she is or where my children are either.
I've done my best to be calm and composed and to not lose it and start attacking all sorts of people I know are complicit. I called the police to report it - they chastised me and asked me to exhaust every avenue to 'try to find them' myself i.e. go and knock on doors at addresses where they may be staying whether I'm welcome there or not etc.
I just need the best possible advice as to what the law states and the steps I should be taking NOW. I don't want to do anything rash or that will cause even further problems later.
However I know that I HAVE TO TAKE ACTION.
Thanks all for your support.
Perhaps, rather than ask those people where she is, try asking if they can get a message to her and say that you want to try mediation. If you have genuine concerns for their welfare, then you could contact the police and express these concerns, but as presumably you didn't have concerns about her ability as a mother before she left, then this might be stretching the point.
I'd also go and speak to either the Citizens Advice Bureau, or get an initial consultation with a family solicitor (hopefully free for the first 30 minutes or so)
Thank you.
I've finally heard from her. First I'd contacted the Police. They traced her and the kids and simply confirmed she was safe.
This evening, about 9:30pm I get a Notice to appear in court at 10AM tomorrow.
She's applied to have me evicted from my own home etc claiming the usual violence, aggression, assault, lack of safety, she's in fear for her life and the kids etc.
How did it go in court?
Thanks for asking.
It went very well. Thanks to a very good lastminute solicitor. A bit pricey but worth every penny for getting a worthwhile result. She wanted a Non-Mol and Occupation Order.
Unfortunately I don't trust her and don't know if I ever will again.
I will post more fully when I get more time. Just thankful my Four little'uns are back...for now.
Unfortunately I don't trust her and don't know if I ever will again.
At this stage, I think that's a very wise attitude - it's a matter of always being prepared for the worst, and if it doesn't happen, then that's a bonus.
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