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I am deciding to represent myself as I cannot afford a solicitor, cafcass Final report as basically gone for mum. I have no criminal recored or no offences with the council. My daughters are 14 and 11, the final report states that the children are happy with mum and her new partner after 6 months of staying with me for 3 nights per week.
I havnt seen my children in nearly 6 months now. I have a 100 page bundle ready for the court.
It's for 3 hours long. After this I am thinking about like what is the point? What is the point in having x2 weekly phonecalls with my own children, it's and enough not seeing them, I seen them everyday for 12 years the eldest one, then all because we parted and I a applied for a child arrangement order the mum took the girls away and now the girls don't want to see me. I have school reports, and doctors notes but yet, I am the one left paying over 800 a month for them and not seeing them.
My final court is a week today. Just wish I could of afford a solicitor
Regards
Tom
Too many separated parents , take their disputes into Family Court. Its why the system is virtually broken, its full of people who shouldn't be in there over half the cases being heard currently are simply 2 parents having a pissing contest with each other.
At 14 yrs old no orders will be made that are enforceable , shes free to do what she wants - her sister is likely to align with her sibling.
Kids need both parents in their lives, so i would say dont give up, make sure they know you are around when needed.
Good luck with the case. Its hard when children start secondary school and their time is taken up with homework and seeing friends. There is a guide to child arrangements on the advicenow.org.uk which might give some useful points. Are the girls living near you? Hopefully they will drop by sometime. Make sure they have your phone number and know they can call anytime. You might be useful to drop them places?
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