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Sorry to hear that your ex has refused contact with your father supervising it, I'm guessing she using the he will keep my son and his father will let him excuse. I feel you are up against someone who knows how to play the system.
When you go to court on the 4th of Nov I think they will just outline your case it's good that you are going to have legal representation I think that should help you.
I would push for contact centre I know it's not ideal but it's safe for the child and she can't use the he's going to take him excuse also at the contact centre they make sure that you both don't meet because it could affect your bail conditions if you did meet her, sometimes resident parents use grandparents or other family members to take the child to the contact centres maybe if she is unwilling to go the contact centre herself she could get a family member to take him to see you just a thought.
I really hope things work out for you.
Thank you for the reply and your bang on, she does say she’s has concerns that I don’t bring my son back.
I have spoken with a family law barrister tonight and she says that the court should allow some sort of contact after the first hearing and hopefully I can build from there.
I hope she will allow supervised contact via a family member as surely it’s better for my son to be around family rather than a contact center.
But I will take anything I can get to see him.
She knows the system all to well and has recently been through family court with her ex partner.
That sounds positive then hopefully you will get some supervised contact maybe not quite what you after but it will be a start it may feel like you're ex is winning but trust me you are at the start of a long road and things could change in your favour.
I feel you have got the right attitude towards things my advice is try and stay calm and focused on your son. The court will see the allegations of domestic violence has very serious I feel you may have quite a few hoops to got through but I do think you will get unsupervised contact eventually your just going to have to wait it out I know it sucks but that's the system it sucks but I do have a good feeling that you will get what you seeking in the end.
Thank you for your kind words.
I will take anything I can get and will jump through every single hoop on this long road.
The pain is awful going through this but I will always remain calm when I need to and prove I’m a good dad.
Good luck with the court case. The below link is a prime example Judge will not punish mothers and the system encourages Parent Alienation
https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/10199432/judge-apologises-bans-dad-alienated-children-mum-demonising/
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