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What if my ex doesn’t mind me having supervised access through a family member of mine? Is it her decision or the family courts?
courts will look at interests of child and their safety. social service recommendations play a major part and court like to go with that. if ex agreed to let you see child in normal environment, then could make big difference.
The courts should go for that. Please try and concentrate on each battle as they come.
The domestic assault is against my ex partner there is no concerns of any abuse with my son.
I could understand if there were allegations against my son and I’m certainly not a danger to him.
It all seems so weighted in the favour of the mother.
Hi
I'm a woman who has got a friend who has been through a similar thing basically his ex accused him of domestic violence the social services believed her to cut a long story short they were fighting a very bitter battle for 3 years in court she did agree to fortnightly in a contact centre at the start the social worker put forward that a member of his family supervise contact but the court rejected it and forced father and mother into a fact finding hearing which neither wanted to do the judge favoured the mother and send the father on a domestic violence course he refused to go do it, he now gets once a month in a contact centre moral of the story is this dont be like my friend!! if you have done something wrong ( not saying you have) please just admit to it, for the time being try and get some contact in a contact centre it helps because if the court case doesn't go in your favour they are unlikely to stop contact if you have been having contact with you child.
Please try and stay positive if you can get any evidence about what she has done to you or witnesses because I feel you will need them any police reports social services reports may help you.
Another bit of advice is watch who you say in text messages emails that kind of thing can come back at you in court
All the best
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