[Solved] Reported for dv

The courts should go for that. Please try and concentrate on each battle as they come.

The domestic assault is against my ex partner there is no concerns of any abuse with my son.
I could understand if there were allegations against my son and I’m certainly not a danger to him.
It all seems so weighted in the favour of the mother.

Hi
I'm a woman who has got a friend who has been through a similar thing basically his ex accused him of domestic violence the social services believed her to cut a long story short they were fighting a very bitter battle for 3 years in court she did agree to fortnightly in a contact centre at the start the social worker put forward that a member of his family supervise contact but the court rejected it and forced father and mother into a fact finding hearing which neither wanted to do the judge favoured the mother and send the father on a domestic violence course he refused to go do it, he now gets once a month in a contact centre moral of the story is this dont be like my friend!! if you have done something wrong ( not saying you have) please just admit to it, for the time being try and get some contact in a contact centre it helps because if the court case doesn't go in your favour they are unlikely to stop contact if you have been having contact with you child.

Please try and stay positive if you can get any evidence about what she has done to you or witnesses because I feel you will need them any police reports social services reports may help you.

Another bit of advice is watch who you say in text messages emails that kind of thing can come back at you in court

All the best

Hi Craig.. Can I pm you? As your case seems mirror image of what I'm currently going through.

Yes of course devo

Another bit of advice is watch who you say in text messages emails that kind of thing can come back at you in court

I agree with this absolutely - make sure that if everything between you went in front of a judge, that there would be nothing that you would be embarrassed by.

Bail conditions state that I have no contact with her and I will stick to the conditions.
Bail also says my father can contact to arrange contact with my child. When he has contacted her so has refused.

keep a diary of all of this, and copies of any messages.

Sorry to hear that your ex has refused contact with your father supervising it, I'm guessing she using the he will keep my son and his father will let him excuse. I feel you are up against someone who knows how to play the system.

When you go to court on the 4th of Nov I think they will just outline your case it's good that you are going to have legal representation I think that should help you.

I would push for contact centre I know it's not ideal but it's safe for the child and she can't use the he's going to take him excuse also at the contact centre they make sure that you both don't meet because it could affect your bail conditions if you did meet her, sometimes resident parents use grandparents or other family members to take the child to the contact centres maybe if she is unwilling to go the contact centre herself she could get a family member to take him to see you just a thought.

I really hope things work out for you.

Thank you for the reply and your bang on, she does say she’s has concerns that I don’t bring my son back.
I have spoken with a family law barrister tonight and she says that the court should allow some sort of contact after the first hearing and hopefully I can build from there.

I hope she will allow supervised contact via a family member as surely it’s better for my son to be around family rather than a contact center.

But I will take anything I can get to see him.

She knows the system all to well and has recently been through family court with her ex partner.

That sounds positive then hopefully you will get some supervised contact maybe not quite what you after but it will be a start it may feel like you're ex is winning but trust me you are at the start of a long road and things could change in your favour.

I feel you have got the right attitude towards things my advice is try and stay calm and focused on your son. The court will see the allegations of domestic violence has very serious I feel you may have quite a few hoops to got through but I do think you will get unsupervised contact eventually your just going to have to wait it out I know it sucks but that's the system it sucks but I do have a good feeling that you will get what you seeking in the end.

Thank you for your kind words.

I will take anything I can get and will jump through every single hoop on this long road.

The pain is awful going through this but I will always remain calm when I need to and prove I’m a good dad.