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Hi All,
I recently separated from my partner. We have a young son and are also home owners. We purchased out property last year, and have been resident since then. I am currently living back at my parents, and we have begun the 'money talk' conversations. Just to be clear we aren't married, and we currently have a joint account. I do not pay any child maintenance for obvious reasons currently, but my question is when we have separate accounts, do I automatically start to pay? Also with regards to the household bills, what am I liable to pay, certain things like the Mortgage I understand, but if I'm not living there anymore, do I need to pay for things like, TV Licence, Water, Energy? Or are they costs that my partner should pay.
Thanks everyone.
Hi there
Once you. Have separated your finances, it's up to you both to negotiate an arrangement for payment of maintenance, if no agreement is reached the parent that the child lives with would usually open a case with the CMS. (Child Maintenance Service) here's a link to their calculator, Which will give you a rough idea of what you can expect to pay.
It's always better to come to a family based arrangement, it's more flexible and family friendly, so I would urge you to try and reach agreement that way rather than leave it to the government body to sort out.
As far as household expenses, she will be responsible for them, if she works she will be entitled to working benefits, which will help to cover her overheads. She may need to make adjustments, but so will you. It's important that you talk about how to move forward and be reasonable with each other.
Best of luck
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