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My partner and I have just successfully overturned a non-molestation order brought against him by his ex. Even though three magistrates, CPS and two police forces have found in his has no case to answer and we have a 21 page report stating this and basically calling her a liar she is still insisting he is a danger to her and their child. He was the primary carer before he was arrested on charges of ABH. We are going for a section 7 and final hearing in August. The magistrate that presided over the fact finding have requested to oversee the rest of the case so signs are hopefully that my partner will get physical contact with his child. Seen him for two weeks in the last year and only been given video calls as interim contact on the magistrates orders. We are recording all call and only communicating with her via solicitors but when it comes to actually being able to pick up his child what can he do to protect himself? Any advice will be grateful as Police just said don’t be alone with her which is not always possible and she’ll probably make allegations against him even if someone was present.
I would suggest pick up and drops off be done at a public place such as a supermarket car park? I know it doesn't sound ideal, but it is the safest option. I have had the same issues and I pick up my kids at a drive thru car park. I also record myself on arrival to show I am there on time and my phone is in my pocket recording until i have handed the kids over and I am back in my car. Thankfully no further accusations have been raised since this arrangement has been in place
Local supermarket with cctv neutral area I try to have someone even family friend on pick up drop offs
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