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Hi everyone. I had my pre trial hearing today. My ex and her Solicitor were an hour late. Papers and statements were not filed on time, 3 weeks late in fact. The Judge was really p..... Off. Judge gave them both a real dressing down. Case adjourned till 15 th January, then 2 weeks later a 3 day fact finding hearing. During the hearing I was told some distressing news, my 11 year old daughter is now self harming. All because she wants to see daddy. I have informed social services and early years team, still waiting for a reply.. I truly think my ex is a disgusting, irresponsible so called mum.. I could use some stronger term. And on it goes...
hi devo,
its great to hear from you again here. your ex mentioned that your child is self-harming? that is very distressing. was a cafcass person there and did you speak to them? did your barrister try to ask for interim contact? or was that out of the question because those other clowns messed up and case adjourned?
Hi Bill. Yes very distressed about it.. The Judge ripped into her and her Solicitor big time the judge would not hear anything today as her side was late, files the papers late etc, total shambles.. Ive rang SS and they said they pass onto early years help team. I couldn't have been more insistant with them. See what tomorrow brings????
hi devo,
yes please try stay patient. these are tough times. what you need to do is take some kind of breaks in between these hearings. anything, movies, restaurant, hanging out with friends family. weekend trip somewhere in the country if your able to do that. if your ex and her lawyer are stalling and making trouble, then eventually their luck will run out and they will not be able to mess around for much longer.
Hello Devo,
I've sent you a P.M. a few minutes ago as you are probably aware.
With what has happened today I believe this is a turning point in your favour where the court will see, probably for the first time due to your Ex's actions, the truth of the situation in which you are placed.
Stay strong, it's a tough journey but you will get where you want to be in the end.
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